What is Being a Woman?

Hello, and happy Friday to all of you! What’s going on in your lives?

Wanna know what’s going on in mine?

Being a woman.

Being a woman is, of course, a huge part of my identity–if anything, it’s 99% of it. Everything I do, everything I say, every interaction with every person is influenced by this one deciding factor of my life.

What is being a woman? Being a woman is waking up in the morning and spending half an hour on your makeup. Being a woman is spending, on average, thirteen thousand dollars a year on makeup and cosmetics alone. Being a woman is getting in the shower and ridding your body of its natural hair. Being a woman is spending much more time and effort on your appearance than the average man.

Being a woman is wanting to feel pretty.  Being a woman is wanting others to see you as pretty. Being a woman is walking out the door and getting on the bus to go to school. If you take public transportation, being a woman is hoping you don’t get groped on the way to school.

Being a woman is walking into the classroom and wondering what people think of you. Being a woman is dealing with drama. Being a woman is dealing with ignorant young boys. Being a woman is dealing with ignorant male teachers.

Being a woman is being worried that you’re eating too much at lunch. Being a woman is being worried that you’re eating too little. Being a woman is being worried that you’re eating wrong. Being a woman is being worried about eating, eating, eating.

Being a woman is being abused and mistreated. Being a woman is being harassed. Being a woman is being told to smile. Being a woman is being told to stand up straighter, speak softer, seem sweeter.

Being a woman is being in a body that has historically been abused and mistreated. Being a woman is being in a body that has historically been harassed. Being a woman is being in a body that has historically been marginalized and beaten.

Being a woman is maybe not having a choice in the fate of the life growing inside you–or the life that has the potential grow inside you.

Being a woman is getting the same education, yet getting paid 7% less than the average man–and getting paid even less than that as you age.

Being a woman is being slut shamed. Fat shamed. Age shamed.

But being a woman is solidarity. It’s standing with your sisters of all shapes, sizes, and colors. It’s standing with your cis sisters and your trans sisters, it’s standing with your straight sisters and your gay sisters and your everything-in-between sisters. It’s loving your sisters and trusting your sisters and adoring your sisters and knowing there is nothing that can break you apart from your sisters.

Being a woman is being beautiful, whether you know it or not. Being a woman is being confident in your own skin. Being a woman is taking care of your body, your soul, your mind.

Being a woman is exploring your sexuality, exploring your religion, exploring yourself.

Being a woman is being imperfect and perfect, vulnerable and powerful. Being a woman is being flawed and respecting those flaws and cherishing those flaws for all that they are–because they make you who you are.

Being a woman is being in love–being a woman is being loved.

Being a woman is being a dancer, a teacher, a lawyer, a doctor, a writer, an engineer, a soldier, a mother, a sister, a role model.

Being a woman is being beautiful.

Disclaimer: My experience of womanhood, while of course valid, is equally valid as anyone else’s experience of womanhood. As always, I’d love to hear anyone’s thoughts on the subject. Feel free to respond in the comments.

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